My name is Tyler, I’m 26, and I live in Boston with my college roommate, Jake. We’ve been friends since sophomore year and decided to share an apartment after graduating to save money.
For the most part we get along great. We split rent evenly, rotate cleaning duties, and occasionally split food orders if we’re both around.
But last weekend something incredibly stupid turned into a full-blown argument.
It started around 2 a.m. on Saturday night.
I had gone to bed around midnight because I had an early shift the next morning. Jake, on the other hand, had gone out with some friends and got back to the apartment pretty late.
Apparently when he got home he was starving.
So he ordered DoorDash.
Now normally if we’re both awake, we’ll text each other before ordering food to see if the other person wants anything. But this time I was completely asleep and my phone was on silent.
The next morning I woke up, made coffee, and started getting ready for work. Jake was sitting on the couch scrolling through his phone like nothing unusual had happened.
Then I got a Venmo notification.
Request: $8.17
The note said: “Half burrito.”
At first I thought it was a joke.
I walked into the living room and asked, “What’s this for?”
Jake said, completely seriously, “Oh yeah, I ordered two burritos last night and figured we’d split it.”
I asked him what he meant by “split it.”
He pointed to the kitchen counter where an empty takeout bag was sitting in the trash.
“You ate one?” I asked.
“Yeah,” he said. “The other one was technically yours.”
The problem is… I never knew it existed.
I was asleep the entire time.
So I told him I wasn’t paying for it.
Jake said that wasn’t fair because he ordered two burritos assuming we’d split the order, and since he paid for everything upfront, it made sense that I should reimburse him for my half.
I asked him when exactly I agreed to that arrangement.
He said, “Well you didn’t say no.”
Again… because I was asleep.
Apparently his logic is that since the burrito was meant for me and he paid for it, I should still send the money even though I never asked for it and never ate it.
To make things even more ridiculous, he eventually ate the second burrito too.
So he ate both burritos.
And still thinks I should Venmo him $8.
Now he keeps jokingly calling me “cheap” every time the topic comes up.
I don’t think it’s about the money — it’s about the principle. I’m not paying for food I didn’t order, didn’t know about, and didn’t eat.
But maybe I’m missing something here.
So Reddit, AITAH for refusing to Venmo my roommate $8 for a burrito he ordered while I was asleep and then ate himself?