Hello Readers, throwaway for obvious reasons—I’m still dealing with the police reports and restraining order. I’ve been wanting to get this out for months because it’s one of those stories that sounds fake until you live it. In June 2025, I did a small, seemingly harmless favor for a stranger in a parking lot. By December, it had spiraled into a nightmare that upended my sense of safety and made me question every act of kindness I’ve ever done. This is the full timeline—buckle up, it’s long.
I’m 31F, single, live alone in a midsize city in the Midwest. I work remotely as a UX designer, so my days are quiet—coffee shop in the morning, home office, evening walks with my dog. I’ve always been the “helpful” type: hold doors, let people merge, give directions. It’s how I was raised.
June 14, 2025—Saturday afternoon, sunny. I was at my local Target picking up groceries. As I loaded bags into my trunk, a woman approached me—mid-40s, frazzled, crying, holding a dead phone.
“Excuse me,” she said, voice shaking. “My car won’t start, my phone’s dead, and my kid is in daycare pickup in 20 minutes. Can I borrow your phone to call my husband?”
She looked harmless—mom jeans, messy bun, wedding ring. I handed over my phone without thinking. She called, left a quick voicemail: “Hey, it’s me—car died at Target on 45th. Can you come get me? Love you.”
She thanked me profusely, handed it back, and asked if I had jumper cables. I did (Dad insists everyone carry them). I offered to help jump her car.
We tried—nothing. Battery completely dead. She started panicking about daycare late fees and her kid waiting. I felt bad.
Without overthinking, I said, “Look, I can drive you to pickup. It’s only 10 minutes away, right? I’ve got time.”
She burst into tears of relief. “You’re an angel. I swear I’ll Venmo you gas money.”
I drove her to the daycare, waited in the car while she got her son (cute 4-year-old boy). She came back, buckled him in my backseat, and directed me to her house—15 minutes away.
On the drive, she introduced herself as “Carrie,” thanked me nonstop, told me her husband “Mark” was out of town for work, car trouble always happens at the worst time, etc. She asked my name (“Emily”), what I did, if I had kids (no). Normal small talk.
We got to her house—a modest rental in a quiet neighborhood. She invited me in for water or coffee “to thank you properly.” I said no need, but she insisted—“Five minutes, please.”
I went in. Clean house, toys on the floor, family photos. She got me water, had her son color at the table, asked if she could get my Venmo to send $50 “for your trouble.”
I gave her my handle (@EmilyDesigns).
She sent $60 with the note “Guardian angel.”
I left feeling good—helped someone, small world, kindness wins.
That should have been the end.
It wasn’t.
First red flag: June 16, two days later. Text from an unknown number: “Hey Emily! It’s Carrie from Target. Got your number from the Venmo. Just wanted to say thanks again and see if you want to grab coffee sometime? You seem really nice.”
I thought it was a bit forward but harmless. Replied politely: “Happy to help! Coffee sounds nice but I’m pretty busy—take care!”
She replied with hearts and “No pressure! Here if you ever want a mom friend.”
I muted the thread.
Second flag: July. Random texts—“Thinking of you!” with a meme, or “Saw this and thought of your job” with a design article. I replied minimally or not at all.
August: She started showing up places.
First time—my usual coffee shop on a Saturday. She “happened” to be there with her son. Waved excitedly, came over, chatted 20 minutes while I tried to work. I was polite but left early.
Second time—dog park near my apartment. She was there with her kid on the playground side. “What a coincidence!”
Third time—Target again. She appeared in the same aisle, cart full, “Emily! Twice in one summer!”
I started feeling uneasy. Told my best friend; she said, “Classic lonely mom latching on. Just be firm.”
I texted Carrie: “Hey, I’ve been super busy lately—going to be keeping to myself for a bit. Take care!”
She replied: “Oh no worries! I totally get it. Just know I’m here if you need anything.”
I thought that would end it.
September: escalation.
Texts turned personal. “How’s dating going?” (I’d mentioned being single once). Photos of her dinner “Wish you were here to try this!” Random voice notes about her day.
I stopped replying entirely.
Then the gifts started.
First—a $50 Starbucks gift card in my mailbox. Note: “For all your coffees! —C”
Second—a dog toy and treats left on my doorstep. Note: “Saw this and thought of your pup!”
I live in a secure building. She’d have to be buzzed in or follow someone.
I texted: “Carrie, please stop sending things. I appreciate the thought but I need space.”
She replied: “I’m so sorry if I overstepped! Just wanted to say thanks.”
Two weeks quiet.
Then October: the nightmare phase.
I started getting hang-up calls from unknown numbers. Texts from new numbers: “Why are you ignoring me? I thought we were friends.”
I blocked each one.
One night, my doorbell camera caught her standing outside my apartment door at 11 p.m.—just standing, no knocking, for 10 minutes.
I called police—non-emergency. They said no crime yet, but to document.
November: it got scarier.
My boyfriend “Nate” (we’d started dating in September) got a friend request from her on Facebook. She’d found him through my old tagged photos.
She messaged him: “Hi! I’m Carrie, Emily’s friend from Target. Just checking she’s okay—she’s been distant lately.”
He told me. We blocked her.
Then anonymous Instagram accounts started following me—photos of her kid, captions like “Missing my friend Emily.”
I went to police again. Filed for a restraining order. Showed texts, gifts, doorbell footage.
Granted temporary order November 20.
Served December 2.
Since then: silence.
But the damage is done.
I changed my number, made all socials private, installed extra locks, vary my routines. I stopped going to my coffee shop, Target, dog park.
I flinch at every notification.
Police say she has no priors—just “overly attached.” Her husband confirmed she has mental health struggles, promised to keep her away.
I believe him, but I don’t feel safe.
A small favor for a stranger—letting her use my phone, driving her home—turned into a nightmare.
Because I was kind.
I’m not proud of this, but I don’t help strangers anymore. No phone, no directions, no “sure, I have cables.”
The guilt of saying no feels better than the fear of saying yes.
If you’re reading this and you’re the helpful type—trust your gut. Kindness is good, but boundaries are survival.
I just wanted to help a stressed mom get her kid.
Now I jump at shadows in my own hallway.
Thanks for reading. I needed to tell someone.
