My name is Ben. I’m 34. My wife Sophie is 32. We’ve been together nine years, married six. No kids yet—we kept saying “next year.”
Things had been off for about eighteen months. Less sex. More arguments about nothing. She seemed distant, scrolling her phone late at night, smiling at messages I never saw.
I booked a romantic getaway to fix it. A luxury cabin in the Blue Ridge Mountains. No Wi-Fi. Wood-burning fireplace. Hot tub on the deck. Bottle of her favorite wine. I even packed the board games we loved when we were dating.
We left on a Friday in October. The drive was quiet, but the leaves were beautiful. I held her hand. She squeezed back.
We arrived at sunset. The cabin was perfect—big windows, cozy blankets, silence except for wind in the trees.
First night was great. We cooked pasta, drank too much wine, made love by the fire. I thought, “This is it. We’re back.”
Saturday we hiked. Took cute photos. Laughed like old times.
That night we soaked in the hot tub under the stars. Steam rising. Wine glasses in hand.
Sophie got quiet. Staring at the sky.
I asked, “What’s on your mind, babe?”
She took a long sip.
Then she said the words that changed everything.
“Ben… I love you. I really do. But I need to tell you something I’ve been scared to say for two years.”
My stomach dropped.
“I want an open marriage.”
I laughed at first. Thought it was a joke.
She didn’t laugh.
“I’ve been thinking about it constantly,” she said. “I feel trapped. Like I missed out on experiences. I want to be with other people—date, sleep with them—while still being married to you. I want us to stay together, but not be exclusive anymore.”
I felt the cold hit me even in the hot water.
I asked why now.
She told me everything.
Two years ago she reconnected with an old college friend on Instagram. Flirting started innocent. Turned into emotional affair. Never physical, but close.
It woke something in her. Made her realize she married young (we met at 23). Never really dated anyone else. Started wondering “what if.”
She ended the messaging affair, felt guilty, but the desire stayed.
She read books about ethical non-monogamy. Joined secret online groups. Fantasized about a life where she could explore without losing me.
